Navigating Relationships through the Lens of Trauma and Attachment
As a trauma and attachment-based counsellor, I prioritize individual healing before addressing issues as a couple. Every couple carries with them personal narratives, some marred by past traumas, which often colour their perceptions and interactions. I start with individual counselling to address these personal issues, making sure they don't interfere with our couples sessions. Recognizing and addressing past traumas helps us better understand and improve our current relationships. It's important to tackle personal challenges first to effectively work together as a couple.
What Can You Expect from Couples Counselling?
Trauma & Attachment-Based Approach: Rooted in a deep understanding of both trauma and attachment theories, this approach recognizes how past experiences can shape our current relationships, emotions, and behaviours. Together, we'll work to process and heal from these experiences, fostering resilience and authentic living.
Personalized Session Lengths: A regular couples session runs between 75-90 minutes, offering a structured yet flexible space for exploration and growth. Individual sessions run between 50-60 minutes.
Virtual Convenience: Conducted securely online, these sessions ensure that you can attend from the comfort of your own home or any private space that feels right for you. This approach ensures accessibility and ease, fitting into your life seamlessly.
Available Across Key Provinces: Offering services to individuals located in Quebec, Ontario, and Alberta, this virtual format ensures that quality trauma and attachment-based counselling is available regardless of geographic location.
Relationships are Complex
Our relationships are influenced by our early attachment patterns and any past traumas. In the beginning, most relationships have strong connection and mutual understanding. However, as time progresses, underlying issues related to past experiences and attachment styles can surface. This often leads to conflicts, which are essentially struggles rooted in old wounds and unmet emotional needs. These struggles can make us feel distant, isolated, and even doubtful about the relationship's future. Questions like 'Why is this happening?', 'How did we get here?', or 'Is this relationship right for me?' might arise. If these concerns sound familiar, therapy, viewed through a trauma and attachment lens, can provide clarity and help in addressing these deep-rooted issues.
How does it work?
The process starts with a separate 30-minute Zoom call for each partner. This allows you to ask questions and get to know my approach. If both of you decide to move forward with me, we'll set up an initial 2-hour session. During this time, we'll discuss and align on goals, I'll assess your attachment styles, and provide key information about attachment and trauma. This information will be essential as we work together. The goal of this first session is to understand each person's expectations and set a clear foundation for our future sessions.
How many sessions will it take?
The number of sessions varies based on what's best for your relationship. Every relationship is unique, so whether you opt for weekly or bi-weekly sessions, the aim is to find a frequency that benefits both of you the most. All couples sessions are consistently 1.5 hours long, while individual sessions last between 50 to 60 minutes.